tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45327521885878692502024-03-04T20:46:20.008-08:00M@G|c@l w0rds...Iw@Nhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17300759111243583623noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4532752188587869250.post-72209371350747129122010-08-18T15:27:00.000-07:002010-08-18T15:27:58.204-07:00Success comes in cans, not cant's<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNCCdcOSb_Gra0qIj12tAlyFDWRVXcwE17IybiXKR3EUwVwcqB5Jpy1Fyt0ZeKnJodBtdI2f78wctou1qWPD2tj9n2vHKtbLgAXEztXUyQO5hIhYI4A8VoFd303EbS3YTRrJAjxjJzWk4/s1600/21.gif" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiNCCdcOSb_Gra0qIj12tAlyFDWRVXcwE17IybiXKR3EUwVwcqB5Jpy1Fyt0ZeKnJodBtdI2f78wctou1qWPD2tj9n2vHKtbLgAXEztXUyQO5hIhYI4A8VoFd303EbS3YTRrJAjxjJzWk4/s320/21.gif" width="206" /></a></div><br />
<div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">We are all beset with doubts sometimes. Even the most self-assured and successful people can be unsure of themselves. Some people are clearly more confident than others, though. To what extent this is ‘nature’ and ‘nurture’ is unclear, though I suspect that ‘nurture’ has a lot to do with it. I’ve seen my own confidence wax and wane over the years, and external factors have certainly played a part. Some signs that you might be lacking somewhat in confidence are:</span></div><ul style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><li><span style="font-size: large;">Thinking that other people are better than you</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">Expecting the worst outcome</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">Engaging in negative self-talk</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">Feeling the need to justify your behavior to others</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">Overreacting to criticism</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">Not having many friends or avoiding social situations</span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: large;">Body language that is defensive and closed.</span></li>
</ul><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">If you have some of these traits, perhaps you need to consider building more confidence. Can this be done? I think it’s clear is that confidence, like most other traits, can be developed. Like a muscle, with training and in time, it can become strong and powerful. To put it another way: <strong>confidence is a habit</strong> – confidence begets confidence. Here are some training ideas to develop this most important of habits.</span></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span id="more-3069"></span></span></div><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"> </span></h3><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Make friends with your failings and limitations</span></h3><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh1AoyJvtZteh-pQC5ccc9P2utYOScvovNBIjVf73_NdeR2pDLer6DqAbtDICPkkprfgbyF1eIQGCSHp70NS2YCrvtCyo4Qd8UIjdCPPpPvzWisUiy4AuVgJJNBnEuoL-glUOsCI3ggB64/s1600/ConfidencePoster-752647.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="256" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh1AoyJvtZteh-pQC5ccc9P2utYOScvovNBIjVf73_NdeR2pDLer6DqAbtDICPkkprfgbyF1eIQGCSHp70NS2YCrvtCyo4Qd8UIjdCPPpPvzWisUiy4AuVgJJNBnEuoL-glUOsCI3ggB64/s320/ConfidencePoster-752647.jpg" width="320" /></a><span style="font-size: large;">This is a key area. Obviously, you are not perfect – far from it. So long as you are challenging yourself, stepping out of your comfort zone and seeking to develop, you will be making mistakes. The mistakes are signs of growth and nothing to be ashamed of.. Confident people are comfortable in their own skin, happy with themselves in all their imperfection. They have nothing to prove.</span></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><br />
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</div><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"> </span></h3><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Don’t be pushy or aggressive</span></h3><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg-ECBlvKW2Ihkf2B9vw9ZSZFb3U85Fns1jjeKYK7xs6sOerHU4sMhQoj-mMcCxJQeUua5zIKCA8FP3oApS4tixa87b1bD_CMuRI64Q21xgteHNJtxyRV_8wIerOsc3z0-nRpGGEiAR4Q8/s1600/cover_1_000.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg-ECBlvKW2Ihkf2B9vw9ZSZFb3U85Fns1jjeKYK7xs6sOerHU4sMhQoj-mMcCxJQeUua5zIKCA8FP3oApS4tixa87b1bD_CMuRI64Q21xgteHNJtxyRV_8wIerOsc3z0-nRpGGEiAR4Q8/s320/cover_1_000.jpg" width="280" /></a><span style="font-size: large;">Confidence can manifest itself in many different ways, and sometimes there is a visibly assertive quality to it, but there is also a quieter and more restrained confidence. When you meet a confident person, you tend to pick up that the person is happy with himself and feels comfortable in her own skin. <strong></strong>Confidence does not mean aggressive, pushy, loud or superior, which is often a sign of over-compensation for some kind of inferiority complex.</span></div><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"> </span></h3><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Don’t be defensive</span></h3><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"> Listening to and acting on criticism is an important part of being confident. It is often very hard for us to be objective about ourselves, and other people can give us great insights into our strengths and weaknesses. Of course, we have to be critical about the things that people tell us, not falling into credulity and taking everything they say at face value. But the insights afforded by others can be very valuable. If people laugh at you or attack you, this probably says more about them than about you. Insecure people often try to cover up their feelings of inadequacy by falling into such behaviors.</span></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><br />
</div><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"> </span></h3><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Do what you believe to be right</span></h3><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhywOzhEuB26poGqJr0P8lZsc7ukv23Mye1TnjUYNzOlX2EIIR0jnGS5h1y5y7dn36GxCbcD1SbWTV6l7Vvk0Uy7UlOqPE78crhjQKEVkqEJlgl3eMoxRrEFzGr_N1iLMOI1KgtL8QtnrA/s1600/Self_confidence_thumbnail.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhywOzhEuB26poGqJr0P8lZsc7ukv23Mye1TnjUYNzOlX2EIIR0jnGS5h1y5y7dn36GxCbcD1SbWTV6l7Vvk0Uy7UlOqPE78crhjQKEVkqEJlgl3eMoxRrEFzGr_N1iLMOI1KgtL8QtnrA/s320/Self_confidence_thumbnail.JPG" width="320" /></a></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Confident people tend to rely on an internal guidance system to keep them going along the right track, whereas those with less confidence can be buffeted around by other people’s opinions and agendas. Having an inner compass is an essential part of living assertively and confidently, and following the compass can sometimes mean having to take risks. But without risk, there is no growth.</span></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><br />
</div><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"> </span></h3><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Set challenging goals</span></h3><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Confident people tend to live in a more conscious and deliberate way, setting goals for themselves. They are secure enough to tolerate failure, and are comfortable with not getting things right first time. If we are not growing, then we are falling back – there is always movement. As we challenge ourselves, our comfort zone grows, and this growth often involves the pain of failure. This pain is too much for insecure people to bear. But to confident people, failure is only a stepping-stone, not the destination.Sucess, for confident people, is inevitable. It’s only a matter of time.</span></div><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWD1IwE6i3epMMpevZTHBulBGhaIUlFyXagj_DXYLZdaeBjDMYwHGkAQCiOMaBfE2Eq-9rh7IEffY3VLOrpIA8N-e-EcqRSx4sct8m9waZG2OmCm6ASPIRRhOPTkuSr5GYyki3zVF9YHo/s1600/confidence_415.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWD1IwE6i3epMMpevZTHBulBGhaIUlFyXagj_DXYLZdaeBjDMYwHGkAQCiOMaBfE2Eq-9rh7IEffY3VLOrpIA8N-e-EcqRSx4sct8m9waZG2OmCm6ASPIRRhOPTkuSr5GYyki3zVF9YHo/s320/confidence_415.jpg" width="226" /></a></h3><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Keep a record of your achievements</span></h3><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">It is common for people with limited self confidence to compare themselves unfavorably with others. Such people may assume that others are ‘better’ and have achieved more, so it can be very helpful to make a list of achievements. If you do this, you may find that the list is longer than you thought. Imagine what you would think if this were a list of someone else’s achievements. Would you be impressed? Would you think highly of that person?</span></div><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Learn to be optimistic</span></h3><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">People who lack self-confidence are often pessimistic about the future and tend to think the worst. It’s important to replace negative, self-defeating mental chatter with upbeat, positive self-talk. All day long, thoughts are swirling around inside our head and we need to be conscious about this. Such self awareness isn’t easy, but with some gentle persistence you can become more aware of your thoughts and, when you catch yourself thinking in a negative way, replace the thought with something more positive. Examples of negative thinking are: exaggerating the negative aspects of things, taking things personally, feeling you are being blamed for things or feeling like a victim, to name just a few. Simply being aware of negative thinking modalities can be a great help in overcoming them. When you catch yourself thinking in such negative ways, try to replace the thought with something more self-affirming.</span></div><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Take a balanced approach</span></h3><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">The benefits of confidence are clear but, as with most things, too much of it can be unhealthy. Over-confidence, which can lead to errors of judgment and under-performance, is dangerous and should be guarded against. Confidence is about getting the balance right.</span></div><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"> </span></h3><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Relax</span></h3><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhhe26_zauiVf3DfngQ4JdaGfeAvD-aI30GPJT49kblHfuoRu1ldBXI5FJwv-2MAy5xSi-HePBQ7HEXutDrVRXn2XDj6lqTqjV1DQ-SKzOhvujgjfpnfOd7n2RXf6AyOQykIfNjyZMB314/s1600/relax.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="223" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhhe26_zauiVf3DfngQ4JdaGfeAvD-aI30GPJT49kblHfuoRu1ldBXI5FJwv-2MAy5xSi-HePBQ7HEXutDrVRXn2XDj6lqTqjV1DQ-SKzOhvujgjfpnfOd7n2RXf6AyOQykIfNjyZMB314/s320/relax.jpg" width="320" /></a><span style="font-size: large;">Confident people are more relaxed, happier and enjoy situations, however challenging, a lot more than those with low self-esteem, trusting that they can deal with whatever problems and challenges might arise. If you fail, if you get it all wrong, it won’t be the end of the world. If you’re tense and worried about how you’re being perceived, your energy is being wasted – it’s not going into the matter at hand. So let go, take the focus of attention off yourself, relax and enjoy the ride.</span></div><blockquote style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><em>“Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” ~ Norman Vincent Peale</em></span></blockquote><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">The benefits of being confident are clear: you’ll be happier, more relaxed and probably healthier. You’ll use time more effectively because you won’t be worrying endlessly about other people’s opinions, and you’ll have a clearer sense of purpose, so you’ll be a lot more effective. Confidence, in a sense, is the key to happiness and fulfillment. So boost up your instant confidence today and feel the different XD</span></div><blockquote style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: georgia,bookman old style,palatino linotype,book antiqua,palatino,trebuchet ms,helvetica,garamond,sans-serif,arial,verdana,avante garde,century gothic,comic sans ms,times,times new roman,serif;"><i><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">Whether you think you can or think you can't - you are right. ~Henry Ford</span></span></i><!--GCLE--><br />
</span></blockquote>Iw@Nhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17300759111243583623noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4532752188587869250.post-89494910574109287842010-08-16T13:44:00.000-07:002010-08-16T13:44:03.108-07:00PROCRASTINATION!!!!!<div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; text-align: left;"><br />
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</div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: large;">One of my personal struggles is beating procrastination. Procrastination can cause PREVENTABLE problem and situation to escalate out of control. I think i have been engaged to this struggle quite some time to battle this habit. It is hard to get this this habit in control but if you are diligent and persistent in your effort this can be done.I hope you will the find the following tips are helpful in order for you to take control over any tendencies that you may put off....</span></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; text-align: left;"><br />
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</div><div style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; text-align: left;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiuP6v2sGXZSS-KI0zHqLe9fYCA4XHGu7nvy2MGsHv3kBv5MQsjxlhPp2FJnub9TP7UJSedX2InuS9XcEMzr2WWNeKpLh0D70yjGDqII_rAFOoAburotaG-V5S-DFGmjfafBpsU3tB4bNY/s1600/procrastination-cartoon.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiuP6v2sGXZSS-KI0zHqLe9fYCA4XHGu7nvy2MGsHv3kBv5MQsjxlhPp2FJnub9TP7UJSedX2InuS9XcEMzr2WWNeKpLh0D70yjGDqII_rAFOoAburotaG-V5S-DFGmjfafBpsU3tB4bNY/s320/procrastination-cartoon.jpg" /></a><span style="font-size: large;">If you are a procrastinator you must begin by acknowledging the fact that “You are a Procrastinator!” Once you have taken responsibility for your actions you can begin the process of correcting the behavior. It seems simple, but it is the first and most important step.</span></div><div style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; text-align: left;"><br />
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</span></span></div><div style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: large;">Get rid of old habits that are causing you to procrastinate. Replace your bad habits with good habits. For instance if you know that you need to exercise everyday replace the habit of not exercising everyday with the new habit of exercising at least 15 minutes daily.</span></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; text-align: left;"><br />
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</span></span></div><div style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; text-align: left;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMh3e1iqAMorrlZtKtkWxveAr8yPhzvXK1jWuX2TtsGtnu5_letDOOB-nZWh4lU6jdBvNWnyrZrwfR-8o6TxrIhEr2KpU9M7NNXmqyh-iIq3gvb-lU_sJpD_JvSrlbtEiLM_odZTPcDG4/s1600/procrastination-motivation-procrastination.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMh3e1iqAMorrlZtKtkWxveAr8yPhzvXK1jWuX2TtsGtnu5_letDOOB-nZWh4lU6jdBvNWnyrZrwfR-8o6TxrIhEr2KpU9M7NNXmqyh-iIq3gvb-lU_sJpD_JvSrlbtEiLM_odZTPcDG4/s320/procrastination-motivation-procrastination.jpg" /></a><span style="font-size: large;">If you are a chronic procrastinator like I am you will have setbacks. Don’t beat yourself up about it just pick yourself up and continue with the correct course of action. Learn from what happened and be more conscious of not letting it happen again</span></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; text-align: left;"><br />
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</span>Iw@Nhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17300759111243583623noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4532752188587869250.post-1023153803607804642010-08-15T15:08:00.000-07:002010-08-16T16:12:39.464-07:00WHY HAPPY????<h3><span style="font-size: large;"><b><span style="color: #444444;">Absurdities and obstacle approach in an inappropriate manner and sometimes could withhold our ability to live a better life. Think back for a moment to the carefree days of childhood when your most pressing concern was what cartoon to watch or how to dress your favorite doll or action figure. Do you remember how peaceful and content you felt???? There are no reasons to be unhappy.. Old saying always goes "There are no such thing as bad weathers.. Warm Sunny shows how beautiful a day could be and Rainy day cleanses our soul and body." Its all in the state of mind. There are many ways to be happy. In some extend these 7 steps might help to fuel up your day with happiness ...Enjoy it!!</span></b></span></h3><h3><span style="font-size: large;"><b> </b></span></h3><h3><span style="font-size: large;"><b>1) <span style="color: red;">Be happy where you are now</span></b></span></h3><h3><span style="font-size: large;"><b><span style="color: red;"> </span></b></span></h3><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Right now! Be thankful for what you have, instead of moaning about what you lack. Be satisfied with what you have when you are in pursuit of what you want.</span></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><a href="http://richgrad.com/links/andrewmatthews/" target="_blank"><img alt="" border="0" class="alignnone size-full wp-image-146" height="417" src="http://richgrad.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/07/andrew-matthews-envy.jpg" title="andrew-matthews-envy" width="385" /></a></span></div><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b> </b></span></h3><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b>2) <span style="color: red;"> Happiness, more than anything, is a choice we make every day</span></b></span></h3><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b><span style="color: red;"> </span></b></span></h3><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Happiness is a conscious decision. You choose to be happy today or you choose to be miserable. Your action/reaction is determined by how you choose to perceive a situation. Amusing illustration of a couple surrounded by a pack of crocodiles. The man thought “OMG Crocodiles!” while his wife thought “OMG Handbags!”</span></div><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b> </b></span></h3><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b>3) <span style="color: red;"> Happiness is understanding the things we can’t change yet and working on those we can</span></b></span></h3><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b><span style="color: red;"> </span></b></span></h3><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Some things are hard to change overnight. It’s unusual to change from a pauper into a millionaire in a day. Happiness is knowing that some things take more time. We can start by working on what we can change immediately.</span></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><a href="http://richgrad.com/links/andrewmatthews/" target="_blank"><img alt="" border="0" class="alignnone size-full wp-image-147" height="371" src="http://richgrad.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/07/andrew-matthews-guru.jpg" title="andrew-matthews-guru" width="385" /></a></span><span style="font-size: large;"><b> </b></span></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><br />
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</div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">I was playing roller blade one Saturday evening and there was this beautiful girl(memang cute lah dia nie) I met while getting a drink. She smiled as we both walked towards the vending machine. I smiled back and allowed her to buy her drink first.</span></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">While on the skating rink, we passed each other a couple of times. I was trying hard to keep myself on my feet while to her embarrassment she also was falling happily. Our eyes met again. She smiled and I smiled back.</span></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Then as she was making her way out of the rink, I smiled and waved goodbye. She smiled back. I could hear her friends asking “Is that your friend?” I didn’t catch her reply but I remembered her turning towards me with another smile. I returned the smile with a wave to her bewildered friends.</span></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">We didn’t exchange a single word. We didn’t need to. The smiles were enough to brighten up both our days.</span></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><br />
</div><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b>5) <span style="color: red;">Whatever you get, accept it and deal with it</span></b></span></h3><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b><span style="color: red;"> </span></b></span></h3><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">All too often, when something bad happens, we are too quick to point fingers and start placing blame on everyone else. Happiness is about accepting responsibility and dealing with what comes your way. Blaming the whole world is not going to solve anything.</span></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><a href="http://richgrad.com/links/andrewmatthews/" target="_blank"><img alt="" border="0" class="alignnone size-full wp-image-148" height="283" src="http://richgrad.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/07/andrew-matthews-boat.jpg" title="andrew-matthews-boat" width="485" /></a></span></div><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b> </b></span></h3><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b>6) <span style="color: red;">Problems = Catalyst to take Action</span></b></span></h3><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">We should see problems as a catalyst for us to take action. Problems are good teachers, so learn to love them. Next time, when you face a problem at work/in business, remember to run up to your boss/partner and say, “We have a huge opportunity!”</span></div><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b> </b></span></h3><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b>7) <span style="color: red;"> Learn from the elephants!</span></b></span></h3><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">How do you eat an elephant?<br />
<i>Answer: One bite at a time.<br />
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What did the elephant say to the naked man?</span> <span style="font-size: large;"><br />
<i>Answer: How do you breathe through that thing?</i></span> </div><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b> </b></span></h3><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b>8<img alt="" border="0" height="1" hspace="0" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=froreltorelth-20&l=as2&o=1&a=1401301304" vspace="0" width="1" />) <span style="color: red;"> Put everything you have into whatever you are doing now</span></b></span></h3><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Do your best (100%) and life will support you!</span></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><br />
</div><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b> </b></span></h3><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b>9) <span style="color: red;">It’s not what you get. It’s what you become that matters</span></b></span></h3><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Know what to expect – Expect a better you.</span></div><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b> </b></span></h3><h3 style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b>10) <span style="color: red;">No one else is going to make you happier. Work on yourself.</span></b></span></h3><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">A lot of people get things mixed up. A wife thinks about all the bad things her husband does while a widow remembers all the good stuff. That is the ultimate recipe for misery! Isn’t it better to switch the lists around?</span></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;"><a href="http://richgrad.com/links/andrewmatthews/" target="_blank"><img alt="" border="0" class="alignnone size-full wp-image-149" height="372" src="http://richgrad.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/07/andrew-matthews-couple-bed.jpg" title="andrew-matthews-couple-bed" width="385" /></a></span></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Work on your mindset. See things from a positive light.</span></div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">Happiness is in the way you think. No one can make you happy except yourself. I hope Faith will teach you something about happiness that goes beyond words.LETS TURN ON THAT HAPPY MOOD SHALL WE...XD</span></div>Iw@Nhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17300759111243583623noreply@blogger.com0